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What is SUICIDE?
Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death.
Mental disorders, including : DEPRESSION, BIPOLAR DISORDER, AUTISM, SCHIZOPHRENIA, PERSONALITY DISORDERS, ANXIETY DISORDERS, and SUBSTANCE abuse—including alcoholism and the use of benzodiazepines—are risk factors. Some suicides are impulsive acts due to stress, such as from financial difficulties, relationship problems such as breakups, or bullying.
The current situation in the world has made a lot of people think about taking their lives, because they feel that there is no hope for the FUTURE. For the past 3months or so, all we hear and read about is the coronavirus, and seeing that our new normal is lockdown, its easy for one to go crazy.
Spoke with my classmate couple of weeks ago and he told me how he has contemplated taking his live twice during this lockdown period, and when I asked him why, he told me that he is fed up with how things are going around him, that he feels no pleasure and that he thinks the world is practically coming to an end.
I didn’t say much to him, but what I said struck him. I told him, if you take your life, it’s a simple act to show people that you don’t appreciate your parents efforts. Also told him that it’s the highest form of blasphemy to God, because your basically saying that he made a mistake in bringing you to the world. He called me days after and thanked me for my words.
Suicide is the worst mind game. Most people never entertain the thought of ending their own lives because they know it isn’t an option, they would ever choose no matter what, but there are some troubled souls who choose to leave this world by their own hand.
For whatever reason, these people feel they would be better off if they weren’t here, and they feel their family and friends would be better off without them too. Their mind game lies within these troubled thoughts.
Our thoughts are very powerful. We can use our thoughts to lift us up, or we choose to let them tear us apart. It’s our emotions that orchestrate our thoughts every day. It’s up to us to decide how we’re going to compose them.
Will you focus your thoughts by choosing the positive notes, or will you use the negative ones? This choice is up to you every day.
There are times in our lives when we’ll have to face things we don’t want to face. A time when we’ll have to deal with something that was totally out of our control. Times when we’ll feel utterly alone, or we’ll have to endure the actions of negative people hurting us.
These obstacles can be overwhelming for those who are stuck in a loop of self-defeating thoughts and negative emotions. Because of their negative inner dialogue, these events can spark a downward spiral into an abyss of depression, devastation, and hopelessness.
I know our society has put a STIGMA on mental health. Everyone expects you to just deal and get over it. Well, it’s not that easy for some. They feel they can’t control the depression and hopelessness they experience every day. They grow so tired of it that they decide enough is enough. They get tunnel vision as they make themselves believe that it’s never going to get better.
Imagine someone who has to deal with chronic pain every day, or losing a father who meant the world and beyond to them. This can be very debilitating, and it becomes hard to enjoy anything in life. Again, there are some people who have learned to cope with their pain, but not everyone is alike.
I have some people in my life who’ve had to deal with lasting pain. I can see the misery in their faces. Some may feel they’ve had enough, leaving them with the only path they see, to being pain free, is to check out of their life. I truly feel a deep empathy for these people.
UNREQUITED LOVE, is another reason some may decide to take their own life. I don’t want to diminish anyone’s feelings, but this is a perfect example of placing your happiness in someone else’s hands. Taking control of this mind game, is a test to where you’re going to let your thoughts go. Remember, letting go is a process too. If you can talk yourself into being lost and hopeless without them, then, you can talk yourself into letting that person go for your own well-being. We have to make ourselves happy. We can’t depend on others to do it for us.
In the case of a murder/suicide, this is totally out of our control. We can go over things in our heads a million times about what you should have, could have, would have, (the legendary CELINE DION even sang “Coulda, Woulda Shoulda) done to stop it, but it will do you no good. Even hindsight can’t help you to avoid an event like this. You can make yourself sick and miserable by believing there was something you could have done to prevent this from happening. Let’s say you do come up with a solution to the event; you can’t spend the rest of your life beating yourself up for not acting back then to prevent it. That’s a useless mind game. Don’t let yourself get trapped in that mindset.
There are some who use the idea of suicide to control others. They announce, to those closest to them, that they’re going to kill themselves, so they can see how much these people care about them. They want these people to talk them out of it, but after the third or fourth time of threatening suicide, (it resembles the story about the boy who called wolf too many times). People become numb to it and see that it’s just a ploy to get attention.
But come to think of it, if you decide to take your life bacause you thought they never loved you or cared about you….
But the truth is that you are actually the one who does not love them, bacause, if you did you wouldn’t have taken your life. Have you thought of what they will go through, they self torture they will have to go through, and the million unanswered questions about why you commited suicide. And most of all you never appreciated your existence on earth.
The worst kind of suicides are the ones where someone talked another person into killing themselves. It’s the cruelest form of suicide. To demean and ridicule someone into suicide, is vicious and cruel. Most of the time, our loved ones won’t tell us when someone is doing this to them. The sad part is they believe these sick people because it’s someone they love that is telling them to do this.
When it comes to the aftermath of suicide, it’s the people who are left behind that suffer the most. They’re left with a puzzle they’ll never be able to solve as they search for why their loved one took their own life. Even when there’s a suicide note, it doesn’t answer all of the questions we have about their untimely death, and how we could have stopped it. Sometimes, the suicide victim lays the blame on someone else for their actions in their note. This is not true. They had a choice, and they choose to end it. Don’t let a statement like this haunt you for the rest of your life.
Some may think that those who choose to kill themselves are selfish. I can see how we can come to that conclusion, but we should also remember to use empathy when trying to figure out someone’s motive for committing such a terrible act. Take the time to imagine walking in their shoes and feeling what they must have felt.
Dealing with the outcome of a suicide, will ultimately lead us to accepting something we wished we never had to accept, but it’s the act of accepting that will truly set us free. Even when it’s the unacceptable.
According to some of the metaphysical books I’ve read, and some movies I’ve watched, people who commit suicide, immediately regret their decision. Survivors of suicide relate this same sentiment. Using your freewill to kill yourself, doesn’t get you off the hook for the lessons you were supposed to learn. You get a one-way ticket back here to face all those problems again, so you’re not skipping out on anything you agreed to learn.
Now, my message to anyone who’s contemplating suicide. Please, reconsider your decision. I know it’s your life, and you’re in control of it, but I beseech you to seek out the help you need to get you through this. Suicide is not an answer to anyone’s problems. It’s just an ending that leaves those you care about mourning for your presence in their lives. If you want to do this because of another, don’t let them have that power over you.
And also there is nothing is possible without God, what a therapist and a psychologist can’t do, be rest assured that God will do it, Pray about it always. God is the only hope and only way in this hopeless times, TRUST in HIM and believe in HIM.
I implore you to PRAY, talk to a therapist, especially when you don’t want to. Don’t be so hell bent on leaving. This is not the only answer to your problem. Take charge of your inner dialog and steer it away from this terrible solution. You’re a lot stronger than you think.
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